How to Make Your Wife Feel Attractive and Desired in Your Marriage

Compliment Her More Often

One of the simplest yet most powerful ways to make your wife feel more attractive is to regularly give her sincere compliments. Make a habit of telling her when you notice she looks beautiful, when she's dressed nicely, or when she does her hair or makeup in a way that you find attractive.

The key is to be specific with your compliments so she knows you're noticing the details. For example, "That dress looks amazing on you," or "Your haircut really brings out your eyes," or "I love it when you wear that shade of lipstick."

Aim to give at least a few thoughtful compliments per week. Spread them throughout different days and times rather than overwhelming her all at once. Consistent genuine praise is more meaningful than occasional over-the-top flattery.

Compliment More Than Just Her Looks

While physical appearance compliments are important, also make sure to compliment your wife's inner qualities and attributes. Recognize when she does something thoughtful or considerate, when she achieves something at work, or when she handles a situation with grace and maturity.

For example, "I'm so proud of how you handled that disagreement so calmly," or "That centerpiece you made looks amazing - you're so creative," or "The way you comforted our friend means the world to her, you're so caring."

Complimenting your wife's intellect, talents, values and spirit helps her feel recognized and appreciated as a whole person, not just a physical body.

Express Physical Attraction and Affection

In addition to verbal praise, being affectionate physically also makes your wife feel desired and attractive.

Give her frequent hugs, put your arm around her in public, hold her hand, rub her shoulders, caress her face, plant a kiss on the top of her head...any loving touch that shows her you're attracted.

Try being a bit more flirty as well - give her bottom a pat, whisper a playful comment in her ear, wink at her from across the room, pull her in close when you embrace.

Sexual intimacy is important too. Initiate sex yourself rather than always waiting for her to make the first move. Be passionate and enthusiastic when you're together in the bedroom.

Consistent physical affection day-to-day and passion during sex will reassure your wife that the spark is still there between you.

Non-Sexual Intimacy Also Matters

While sexual intimacy is crucial, don't underestimate the importance of regular non-sexual physical closeness as well. Sit close together on the couch, rub her shoulders, stroke her hair, give relaxing massages, cuddle in bed.

Non-sexual physical intimacy promotes oxytocin, the bonding hormone. It shows your wife you don't just desire her body, but that you crave an emotional connection with her.

Notice Her Efforts

If your wife regularly puts effort into her appearance, make sure you notice and acknowledge it. Is she wearing a new perfume? Did she get her hair done? Is she debuting a new dress?

Let her know you noticed the change and appreciate the effort she puts into looking nice. Give compliments focusing on the specifics:

• "That new dress looks so elegant on you!"
• "I love what you've done with your hair, the color looks amazing."
• "I noticed you're wearing that perfume I bought you, it smells so sexy."

If you fail to notice or just give a generic "you look nice," she'll feel under-appreciated. So make sure she knows her time and effort doesn't go undetected.

Compliment Her Natural Beauty Too

While it's important to notice when your wife puts extra effort into her appearance, also compliment her natural, everyday beauty. Remind her she looks just as gorgeous when she's makeup-free in sweats.

Say things like "You look so beautiful this morning, I love seeing your natural beauty," or "Even just in your bathrobe you look stunning."

This shows her you're attracted to her, not just the glammed up version of herself. Its about noticing and appreciating her true inner and outer beauty.

Take Her on Romantic Date Nights

Make an effort to treat your wife to romantic, one-on-one date nights periodically. Get dressed up, go somewhere nice, turn off your phones, and focus completely on each other.

The planning itself - picking the restaurant, getting dressed up, arranging childcare - shows her you value spending dedicated time together. Opening doors, pulling out her chair, gazing into her eyes...these little gestures help her feel feminine and cherished.

Choose activities you know she'll love - go to a show or concert, have dinner at a nice restaurant, take a scenic walk downtown, go dancing. Or even just check into a hotel nearby and spend time reconnecting.

Investing this kind of couple time fuels intimacy and romance. Your wife will see it as evidence you still want to court her even after years together.

Plan Regular At-Home Date Nights Too

You don't need an elaborate night out to reconnect as a couple - even an at-home date night can be romantic. Cook her a delicious meal, light some candles, give each other massages, slow dance in the living room...

Surprise her by transforming your backyard into a romantic oasis - string up twinkle lights, lay out a blanket and pillows, play soft music. Or run her a hot bath filled with bubbles and pour her a glass of wine.

Make the effort to carve out quality couple time, without distractions. She'll feel loved knowing you orchestrated an entire night just for the two of you.

Celebrate Her Accomplishments

When your wife achieves something noteworthy - a promotion at work, completing an important project, earning a new certification - make sure to celebrate it.

Take her out for a nice dinner, buy her flowers or a gift, proudly announce it on social media (if she's comfortable with that), tell family and friends about it. Make her feel special for her hard work and success.

If it's a public event like a graduation or work awards dinner, attend to show your support. Hearing your praise means more than anyone else's. Let her know how impressive her accomplishment is.

Your pride and excitement will help your wife feel confident and accomplished, enhancing her self-worth. She'll know her efforts don't go unnoticed by you.

Support Her Self-Improvement Goals Too

Even if your wife's goals don't have public recognition, like learning a new skill or improving her health, be supportive. If she shares her goals with you, be encouraging and check in on her progress.

Celebrate mini milestones along the way, not just the final achievement. For example, if she's training for a race, celebrate when she sets a new personal record. If she's learning guitar, celebrate when she masters a new chord.

Your interest shows you appreciate her growth as a person. You'll boost her confidence and self-esteem, which enhances how she sees herself.

Display Photos of Her

Make your wife feel valued by displaying attractive photos of her around your home. Choose a nice framed wedding photo for the mantle, print and frame a fun candid shot for your desk, set out a picture of the two of you on vacation...

When she sees images of herself looking happy and beautiful prominently displayed, it reinforces those positive feelings. The public display also sends the message you're proud to be with her.

You can even keep a nice photo of her in your wallet or phone case. Or make one of your social media profile pictures the two of you. This shows the world, and reminds her, that you cherish her.

Update Photos Over Time

Remember to update the photos periodically as you continue making memories together. You don't want the same wedding photo up for decades. Rotate in newer snapshots from various phases of your lives

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare professional before starting any new treatment regimen.